A balance act has begun in my life, and I am sure we all have faced this or are facing this or will face this... balancing the needs of family, with the needs of work, with the needs, of school. Recently I have begun the all to familiar juggling act that all parents do keeping multiple balls in the air for the members in my family while letting trying to balance my own needs and wants. I have found that their is no perfect balance. I have wanted to give up and quit scream and cry, but where would that leave my family? Where would that leave the children that I care for each day that aren't my own? Where would it leave the parents who depend on me to step in and care and nurture and teach their little ones while they are away? No where is where? So in those moments of crisis I may have to let a ball slip out of alignment because another became a priority for the moment but I have to remember that's why we are human to make mistakes. We are not perfect. We are not meant to be, I can catch up with my school work, I can take read that book while waiting outside of the school to pick up kids or while in the dentist's waiting room for an hour. It's about slowing down and not worrying about how little we have accomplished but congratulating ourselves on how much we have accomplished.
I totally agree Tara. We tend to be our own worst critics. My daughter will soon be 20 years old (it's been a journey). She is very driven and reminds me much of myself (however a more perfect version) when I was younger.
ReplyDeleteNot too long ago, after she finished her busy Saturday schedule, she came by to hang out with me and possibly sensed my frustrations with all I had to do that day..pay bills, grocery shopping, wash clothes, on and on and on!!! .At that moment, she told me....Mom there is nothing wrong with asking for a little help sometimes. You don't have to always do everything by yourself. We (her and her older brother) are grown up now and can help. All I could do was smile and be thankful. My daughter was now reminding me of the lesson I taught her.
I think that its always interesting when our children are able to remind us of the lessons that we have taught us. It brings us full circle, it also reminds us to take time to breathe , stop and remember in time everything has a place and moment. We have to remember even as mothers, and people we deserve a moment all to ourselves.
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